Get Angry Enough to Change—That’s When the Magic Happens
Let’s skip the fluff.
This isn’t a “write it in your journal” type of blog. You know, building a list of affirmations and goals and mood boards over and over again. Not this time. If you’re reading this, you’ve got to be tired—not just tired, but fed up. Fed up with the sinking feeling of not meeting your goals, with those thoughts that come into your that throw your mood off. Fed up with living the same scenario each day—and not loving it. We’ve all been there. I’ve been there. I know what it feels like when you’ve gone through the same cycle one too many times and you finally say:
Enough of this.
I can’t tell you how many of those moments I’ve had. There have been times when I dreamed of getting myself into shape and it stopped there—a dream. Other times when I dealt with gut issues so bad I couldn’t work a full day. And the time I was woke up every morning with a sense of dread, pretending everything was fine while everything inside me was not fine.
After a little while of dealing with these things—I was done. I knew it was time to act. Hard resets. Bold choices. Knowing it wasn’t going to be glamorous. It wouldn’t be comfortable. But I had to make a choice: continue or radical change?
It Starts With the Decision
Radical change doesn’t begin with a Pinterest board. And though boards can be used to draw inspiration, change happens when you act. It begins with a decision—and that decision needs to be serious. Whether it’s born from frustration, or being exhausted by the loop of complaining, wishing, and waiting, you need to get serious about it.
That was me. And maybe that’s you, too.
You’re annoyed with the clutter but keep stepping over piles.
You’re over the poor habits but keep justifying them.
You’re distracted by mood swings, self-doubt, the endless scrolling, the disconnect from your own body—but you're still going through the motions.
We say we want better. But do we want it enough to change? Is it important enough for you to stop what you’re doing and do something different? Here’s what a journal can’t tell you: you can’t expect radical results without some radical change.
The Confidence Comes From the Doing
Here’s the truth that rarely gets talked about: confidence isn’t a personality trait—it’s a pattern.
Confidence comes from keeping your word to yourself. When you keep your word, you’re building trust. You trust yourself and your decisions regardless of what other voices have to say about what you do. From recognizing when something isn’t working and being brave enough to disrupt it to stepping into any situation knowing exactly your intent and capacity to handle it. Your confidence doesn’t have to be perfect. But it does have to be real.
And that’s what I’ve learned to do—over and over again. Not because I have superhuman discipline, but because I got tired of my own excuses that were holding me back from my fullest potential. I stopped waiting for a "sign" that it was okay to trust my own voice and started making choices that became my internal sign.
Choices such as:
Decluttering a room.
Taking a walk around the block.
Throwing out every item in your fridge that makes you feel sluggish.
Shutting down the self-talk that tells you “this is just how it is.”
Enough.
Let People Think What They Want
If you’re going to grow and make changes, people will misunderstand you. Remember that you’re making the changes for you. This isn’t about being mad at what other people think—what they think has nothing to do with you. No one can do anything to force you to change or rethink anything about your decisions. Sure, their words can be triggering or upsetting. But ultimately, when you get angry enough about the whole situation (behaviors you come face-to-face with, habits you start to recognize), that’s when it’s time to act.
I’ve been called too thin, too hard, too intense, too direct. I’ve had my parenting questioned, my choices dissected. And I know I’m not alone in the scrutiny. Anyone who chooses to live with intention—especially women, especially mothers, especially people who’ve broken cycles—will be talked about.
But we don’t live for other people’s opinions. We live for our own alignment.
We can be kind, honest, and self-aware—and still hold the line on what’s best for us. We can be open to feedback without folding under other people’s projections.
You don’t have to become a new person overnight. But you do have to be done with the version of life that no longer fits.
You Don’t Need Permission—You Need a Plan
If you're reading this thinking, “This is me”—then let me ask you:
🌀 What are you sick of tolerating right now?
🌀 What pattern, habit, or thought are you ready to break up with?
🌀 What decision can you make today that future-you will thank you for?
You don’t need to hate yourself to change. You just need to be honest enough to say:
“This version of life isn’t working anymore.”
When you reach that point—and act on it—that’s when the magic kicks in. Because the magic isn’t out there. It’s already in you.
Ready for Real Change?
If you're ready to make those changes with guidance, I created the IID Method (Inner Image Design) for exactly this purpose. It’s not just about clothes or confidence—it’s about building a daily life that feels aligned with your values, your style, and your truth.
✨ Your mind is the designer. Your body is the model. Your spirit is the muse. ✨
Let’s stop tolerating the cycles. Let’s start creating the life that actually fits.
